"Our Daddy Is Invincible!"

Our Daddy Is Invincible!

By Shannon Maxwell
4th Division Press, 2010, $ 15.95
ISBN# 978-1-61751-003-8

In the nine years of war since 9/11, much has been written (and rightly so) of the courage of our wounded Marines and soldiers. With 35,000+ returning burned, wounded, with multiple amputations, the military medical system was overwhelmed, and groups such as Fisher House and Wounded Warriors sprang to the forefront to assist.

All well and good, but in the rush to assist these badly wounded warriors, there was unseen and unnoticed collateral damage – the children of these same wounded warriors.

Fortunately, author Shannon Maxwell’s fine book “Our Daddy is Invincible” addresses these issues, and in terms young children can understand.

This brightly- illustrated children’s book is directed at both the children of the wounded, as well as the children of those deployed. Dads and moms do get hurt, her pictures and age-appropriate text explain, but in the end, our family endures.
“Daddy’s been hurt”, a mom tells her two young children, “but it will all be OK.” To a wife suddenly dealing with wounded husband, she’s calmly conveyed the situation to her children, and now can go back to learning the realities of medivac’s, an emergency flight to Germany, rehab, and the multitude of care issues that will be arising. But the children lying in bed at night have their own fears, and it’s to them that Maxwell address her book “daddies can be hurt?” they think, “how can that be? We didn’t think it that way.”

Maxwell knows too well of what she writes; her Marine husband was badly wounded in Iraq in 2004, and she dropped their two children off with her sister as she made a mad dash to Germany to meet her husband at the hospital. “They sometimes get hurt, just like you and me,” Maxwell explains,” Even superheroes get hurt by the villain sometimes.” She also takes time to explain how nurses, doctors, and an array of therapists are standing by to help amputee mom or blind dad.

In a compassionate, but direct fashion, “Our Daddy is Invincible” deals with wounded dads and moms directly with illustrations of amputee dad or TBI dad. But it’s the context that’s so important, and here Maxwell and illustrator Liza Biggers make their point: amputee dad is happily swimming with his daughter, TBI dad (with helmet) is having breakfast with his young son, and wheelchair dad is on the sidelines of his daughter’s soccer game and cheering her on. “Our daddy is the bravest man we know”, one of Maxwell’s characters writes, ”we are so glad that he’s here to see us grow.”

While one wishes that Maxwell and Biggers (who lost her brother in Iraq) did not have the personal experiences that made “Our Daddy is Invincible” such a powerful and effective book…thankfully they did. If my son (with 5 deployments) ever returns as amputee dad or blind dad, this is the book I’ll be reading to his son / my grandson. A must-read for anyone with a deployed spouse and children at home.